About a month ago I decided that I wanted to write four consecutive blog post spread out over four weeks. I wanted to focus on purpose, planning, pushing, and patience. I managed to get the first two written and up on the blog, but I procrastinated big time with the post that you are reading this very moment. Now I’m two weeks behind.
My ultimate goal in life is to inspire others; to help others awaken their dreams and go after them with intense passion. Today, I want to talk about pushing yourself and how important it is to force yourself to do the things that you don’t want to do. Most of the time, it isn’t always simple. We have responsibilities, we have relationships we want to maintain, and we want to enjoy moments to ourselves doing things that may or may not require a lot of brain power. As a result, our dreams take a backseat to everything else.
I enjoy writing and once I start it’s hard to stop, but I’ll be honest, it’s not always easy getting started. Now I’m just going to put this out there. I am not a writer that writes every day. Yes, I said it. I can hear the gasps now, but it’s the honest truth. I love film so I spend a lot of my free time watching movies. I also enjoy reading and sometimes that’s all I want to do, curl up on the couch and read the words that someone else has written. Then after I have spent enough time away from writing I get the itch again, but it takes some time to build up. Sometimes I wonder, “Why it is so hard to push ourselves towards our talents and passions?” I ask this a lot and for myself the answers are always the same.
- I am fearful of my writing and its transformative power
When you write, the words on paper can reveal so much about you. Your thoughts, good and bad, your integrity, and all those underlying beliefs that you have and don’t want to face. If you’re writing honestly it all ends up on the page. When you see these things that have poured out of you it can force you to get real about life and who you are as a person and sometimes the person that you are is hard to face.
- I am fearful of the potential success or failure that comes with publishing my writing
No one wants to fail. That is obvious, but many people are afraid of success. They are afraid of what people will think about them, afraid of losing friends to jealousy, and afraid of how “success” might change them. However, success is in the eye of the beholder and what may be successful to you may not be for someone else. If success hasn’t been something that you have experienced personally, especially when it comes to uncharted territory such as pursing long lost passions, that unknown can be scary.
- I believe deep down that I am not in control of my future as a writer
So many times we give up on things because we don’t feel like we have control over the outcome, but there are so many things that we do have control over. Even when we don’t have complete control there is usually an opportunity for influence, but we don’t act because we believe that we can’t make a difference.
So there it is. The reasons why I procrastinate when it comes to writing. If you procrastinate like myself it is definitely helpful to dig a little deeper to try to figure out why. When I look over my list the two things that stand out to me are fear and negative beliefs. That’s what keeps me from advancing on my projects or writing down my every day feelings. I fear exposure, I fear change, and I believe that my efforts are pointless. I may feel that the effects of these things are small and inconsequential, but my limited productivity shows that they are not. Through my thinking and inaction I have limited my progress so my fears and beliefs are no longer serving me. If I’ve got to push in order to succeed, the first thing I will be pushing out of my way are my fears and negative beliefs. That’s where the power of push lies. Once they’re gone I’ll have room to structure my plan and initiate disciplined action.
Remember the reasons why you love to write while you’re writing and make sure that you are not plowing through just like you would chores. It won’t help you, it will make you resentful, especially if you haven’t addressed the fear, beliefs, and behaviors that are holding you back. Clear those things out of the way because when you do start to push yourself towards what you want things will be much smoother. I don’t want you to love writing, but over time equate the process to cleaning toilets. Do I need to start writing every day? No, not at all, but I need consistency, such as writing four days a week and taking the other days to do the things that I like so I don’t become burned out. And if I miss a day I don’t need to berate myself, but extend some grace and forgiveness to myself and try to do better the next day. That’s what I need to do, but what you need may be different and that is perfectly fine. The take home message is this, process fears, change beliefs, and consistently align your actions with your goals.